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When looking for dating prospects, some singles may become concerned about how to end a date that is not going as well as they had hoped. This situation can become awkward when trying to do so in a nice and polite manner. Delivering messages of rejection can be an unpleasant thing, but in order to survive the dating world, one must remain honest to his / her feelings and find the courage to say "No" when it doesn't feel right.

Here is a typical scenario: Perhaps you are out with a new date and you are frantically trying to keep the conversation flowing, but it’s like pulling teeth. You are trying to think of excuses so that you don’t have to see the person again. The anticipation of responding to a request for a second date is escalating. How can you handle this politely?

Below, you’ll find a list of 10 ways to say “No thank you” with kindness and grace. Preparing a few key phrases in advance will help you to feel more confident about your ability to escape unwanted situations. Practice the lines that work best for you and feel the most comfortable. This proactive approach will calm your nerves and help you to feel more in control. When you’re ready with answers, you’ll be less likely to get caught off-guard!

Here are 10 polite ways to turn down someone’s request for a another date.

1. I had a good time, but the chemistry I’m looking for isn’t quite there.

2. This was nice, but the spark just isn’t happening.

3. I enjoyed meeting you, but I’m not feeling it.

4. Thanks for the nice time, but I don’t think we’re looking for the same things.

5. This was fun, but we have different ways of looking at things.

6. I enjoyed our conversation, but we don’t share enough common interests.

7. Thank you for the coffee, but I don’t think we share the same outlook on life.

8. I had a good time, but I’m looking for something a little more serious.

9. It was fun, but I don’t think it’s in the stars for us.

10. I appreciate the offer, but I’ll have to decline, thanks.

The constant in these statements is the positive opener. Always begin this type of statement with a pleasant comment and mention what you enjoyed. Then smoothly transition into a vague reason of why you don’t feel like continuing to date. Try to keep the focus on yourself instead of criticizing your date. This makes the turn-down a little easier to swallow and your exit that much smoother.

Of course, turning someone down is not an easy thing, but if done politely, you can make sure to keep feelings of hurt and resentment to a minimum. Also, getting used to dealing with potentially awkward situations will help you move on and eventually find the right person.